Friday, May 11, 2007

Apology III

Seeds IX, 19

Seed: Apology III

The second part of a true apology is showing remorse. When you apologize, are you genuinely sorry? The OED says remorse means a feeling of regret.

It’s funny, I know, but Ralph Waldo Emerson is right when he says, “What you are shouts so loudly that I cannot hear what you are saying.” If you’re not genuinely sorry when you apologize, then you may as well not do it. People can feel energy. They may not be able to name it, but they can feel it. What this means is that if you’re not genuinely sorry when you apologize, the person knows it.

This is an opportunity to look within. Before you apologize, be still. Look inside to discover what you’re sorry for. A lot of times it’s simply that you’re sorry your friend, coworker, whatever is upset by whatever happened. (You may not be sorry you did or said whatever you did or said.)

I think apology requires specificity. It’s not a blanket to be tossed on top of an uncomfortable situation. If you’re sorry, check your conscience. What are you sorry for? What’s causing you remorse? What are you regretting?

Be serene,

Dr. Susan Corso

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