Showing posts with label remorse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label remorse. Show all posts

Monday, August 11, 2008

An End to Remorse

William Butler Yeats was a mystical poet. His words below surprised me because I’d only seen the last three lines before. It was on a Mary Engelbreit page-a-day calendar. Typical affirmative fodder. But the verse is so much more powerful with its first two lines intact.

When such as I cast out remorse,
So great a sweetness flows into the breast.
We must laugh and we must sing,
We are blest by everything.
Everything we look upon is blest.

W. B. Yeats

According to the OED, a wordsmith’s favorite book, remorse means a feeling of deep regret or repentance. It comes from Latin roots meaning biting, as in painful. The key to casting out remorse, and following Poet Yeats’ wise instructions, is revealed in its etymology.

Think of the practice of biting into, say, a brilliant, orange carrot. A happy thing at lunchtime for you; perhaps not so happy for the carrot—I couldn’t say.

Same with remorse. What we do when we indulge in remorse is bite off a memory of an event, or behavior, or choice, or word, or deed that we now wish we’d done differently. Check out the tiny syllable at the beginning of the word: re-. It means again. So not only do we chew on the memory, but we chow down on it, biting again and again and again.

To cast out remorse, beloved, quit biting into it! And letting it bite into you!

As yourself some questions about the experience:

Did I do the best I could with what I knew at the moment?
Could I have done better? Then?
What can I learn from this experience for the future?

Then CAST OUT REMORSE. Let it go. Relax, and let the sweetness of life flow into you.

Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody has wishes that things had gone differently. So?

So, cast out remorse, let sweetness arise, then laugh, sing and let the blessings of everything make you blest.

Friday, May 11, 2007

Apology III

Seeds IX, 19

Seed: Apology III

The second part of a true apology is showing remorse. When you apologize, are you genuinely sorry? The OED says remorse means a feeling of regret.

It’s funny, I know, but Ralph Waldo Emerson is right when he says, “What you are shouts so loudly that I cannot hear what you are saying.” If you’re not genuinely sorry when you apologize, then you may as well not do it. People can feel energy. They may not be able to name it, but they can feel it. What this means is that if you’re not genuinely sorry when you apologize, the person knows it.

This is an opportunity to look within. Before you apologize, be still. Look inside to discover what you’re sorry for. A lot of times it’s simply that you’re sorry your friend, coworker, whatever is upset by whatever happened. (You may not be sorry you did or said whatever you did or said.)

I think apology requires specificity. It’s not a blanket to be tossed on top of an uncomfortable situation. If you’re sorry, check your conscience. What are you sorry for? What’s causing you remorse? What are you regretting?

Be serene,

Dr. Susan Corso

Seeds are remarkable gifts. Sown in consciousness, they bring you to the most important part of your being—your Divine Spark.

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