Friday, May 18, 2007

Apology IV

Seeds IX, 20

Seed: Apology IV

The next part of apology, say the sociolinguists, is acknowledging damage. Damage comes from Latin roots meaning loss. Decoded this means: what has the person lost to whom you are apologizing?

Most often what’s lost is peace of mind. When apology is necessary, there’s ongoing turbulence in a relationship. It may seem just fine on the surface but somewhere there’s a bubbling pot about to overflow on a stove burner.

There are more serious losses than peace of mind, but no matter what the loss, there is usually a feeling of violation, damage, and theft. When I need to hear an apology, I feel as though something has been stolen from me, meaning taken without my permission.

Apology, that valuable tool, is a way of acknowledging that I am not you. I do not experience what you experience. I do not see what you see. I do not feel what you feel. I do not have your history so I cannot pretend to understand where you’re coming from. Apology acknowledges that I am different from you, no matter how similar we are.

Be serene,

Dr. Susan Corso

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